A real solution.

Throughout the past years there has been a large problem escalating in size by the minute that no one cares to address. Why do people not address it? Well that is probably the simplest question, it’s due to fear.

 

“What is the dang problem!?”

 

That right there. That’s the problem. It comes in a variety of names, but the most well known one is bullying.

 

To first answer the question of why people do it, you must ask what is it? Well bullying is plainly just being rude or unkind to someone out of fear or jealousy. Schools attempt to correct the issue, but their attempts show no results. The problem is that schools think they can fix the problem by giving the victim counseling and the bully a slap on the hand.

 

Well open your eyes. It does not work. All that does is put the victim in a awkward situation and give the bully the idea that he can do all these horrid acts of youth violence and get away with ease. Don’t get me wrong, I give them credit for at least trying but come on… Open your eyes, smell the roses, and think of a new plan of action.

 

I propose that in place of the old system you try this: You not only give the victim attention, but also the bully. In doing this, you will not only help the victim through their problems, but address the bully in a positive manner. Instead of letting the bully off with a warning, letting him think he can strike again, you give him attention too!  Think about it; if you help the bully conquer their fear or jealousy towards the victim they will stop permanently. You don’t leave them the chance to hurt anyone else.

I have personal story about being bullied. A person in the 7th grade a 8th grade started to vandalize my bike by breaking my helmet, popping my tire, taking my seat! So, I did what any sensible person would do and report him. But all that did has put me in a greater disposition, because they lied and said I was the bully. It just turned into a he said she said with them on tape doing the crime and myself not. It all ended with me receiving my bike seat back and the bullying ending. However, they never received any disciplinary action. This lead to others getting in the same situation and  the issue repeating itself over and over.  

 

The point is our society currently is just going with the flow. I feel this is shown in social media (I’ll talk about that on a later date) and our current system in schools for bullying. They all do the same thing and no school has yet wanted to reach out and say, “I’m not going by the book. I’m doing it my own way; and improving it!” This once again leads back to fear. The fear of change. But is the needed change really something to fear if it’s a change for the greater good?

 

( I have not yet edited this yet so i apologize)